How Can You Achieve The Complete and Happy Life You Deserve?

Post 6 of the “MyLife TODAY! on Thursdays” series: Ideas and tips on achieving the complete and happy life you deserve

Each year I attend seminars on a wide range of subjects. I justify this by calling it research; watching other speakers and how they present their programs. I have heard many-a-speaker’s Win/Lose, Succeed/Fail message.

And intrinsically tied to these messages, like Velcro strips clinging to each other, was the theme that being successful meant being something – a “somebody”. I heard, “Here is what will make you a success” (the things), and “Here is how you get it” (goal-setting).

A while back I attended a seminar with over 16,000 other people. The atmosphere was electric. But, after two days, I came away from that seminar, and began to wonder; why is it that of the 16,000 people who attended – 16,000 people who all had ambitions, desires and dreams, – why is it that only a handful, maybe a couple of hundred at most, would go on to achieve the riches and the trappings of “success” that we were told defined them as a success (having “made” it)?

Woven like a thread through those seminars, and many more like them, was the underlying message that having goals was important to succeed and, like kicking a goal in a football game, there is either success or failure, you either win or you lose.

So, why wouldn’t everyone “make it”? After all they were told they could! Why wouldn’t more people achieve their goals if goal-setting was as simple as those people running the seminars said it was? After all, everyone who attended heard the same message and all had a relatively similar chance of succeeding.

I believe there is a direct relationship between the way the message is delivered and the reasons why many people don’t achieve their goals:

1)      Many fail to achieve the goals they set because many of them set goals that are based – not on what they really want, but on what they are led to believe makes a person successful; and

2)      The prospect of failing or losing – the only options offered in so many of these seminars on success – stopped them from ever attempting to set goals.

I’ll look at this more in depth in the next few posts.

Just remember this. What makes you a success is not what other people say is success. It is not pursuing the things others say you will be judged by as to how successful you are. What makes you successful is when you achieve the things YOU want. When you strive to chase the life, the lifestyle and the aspects of life that YOU say is important to you and those you love and care about.

That means that you don’t have to have the best according to others – just the best according to you. Nothing else matters.

And this nonsense about being a loser? As I said a few posts ago, forget that! After all, you know you are an achiever.

Make Your Dreams A Reality

Colin

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